Letter to Children Going through Divorce: Or Adults Who Still Wonder

This is a letter I wrote today to a young boy in Houston whose parents are going through a divorce. After I wrote it, I thought, “Gee, I wish someone had written a letter to me when I was twelve and my parents were going through a divorce…!” So, of course, that led me to think that I would post it here on my blog so ANYONE out there who wants to print it out, sign their own name and send it to a child going through divorce could do so. (Feel free to change words and flow…think of it as a starting point for getting your own letter to someone in need…)

I’ve intentionally left his name off the letter for privacy reasons. With that said, I will just write “Adam”. And make sure and put YOUR name in the letter…goes without saying, but you never know!

Dear Adam,

Hi. My name is Sara. I’m a 41 year old woman and my parents were divorced when I was 12. That is one of the reasons I am writing to you today. I’m writing to say that the pain of a family break-up never truly disappears BUT don’t think I’m telling you that to discourage you. I’m telling you this because A) I know you’ve been going through a hard time and B) something good will come of this sadness you feel. You may not know it or see it RIGHT NOW, but somehow you will use this time of learning, anger, confusion, lonliness, questioning and yearning to lead you into being an amazing person. (I’m sure you are already a
great kid….In fact, I know you are.)

How will this time of your life change and affect you? I don’t know. I wish I could answer that for you. But I tell you this: hold on to the simple truth that you are already whole and marvelous and NOTHING can change that….except you.

So, stay on a course of determination and believe in yourself, my friend. Something good will come of this.


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